No one wants pain. Not me, not you. Not a single person on this planet is ready to welcome pain. But the reality is you like it or not, it’s a part of your life. Its UNAVOIDABLE.
So how do you make the most out of it?
You might be wondering what can you get from pain?
A lot. I can say from experience.
You might have heard an old adage NO PAIN NO GAIN.
“A bend in the road is not the end of the road unless you fail to make the turn” says John C Maxwell, author of 15 Invaluable Laws of growth.
The pain and suffering we experience in our lives is meant to help us grow and become the person we need to be.
But most of the times we are so overwhelmed by the pain and its consequences that we crib, complain, whine and blame self, others, life and God for it.
Its nature’s way of forcing us to do what we have been resisting for long.
I became a mother after a long and arduous wait. It was very painful for me to go through the medical treatment that entailed lots of painful procedures and medication. It was an endless wait emotionally, breaking me down several times. I am a die-hard positive, steel-willed individual but the physical pain occasionally did roll out tears from my eyes many a times. I never gave up and destiny rewarded me making me a proud mother today.
This period became my biggest teacher. I learnt the LAW OF PAIN. It made me the person I am today.
My key takeaways from the LAW OF PAIN.
Believe In Karma: My pain made me stronger. I realised I have to do what needs to be done, and left the rest to destiny. Didn’t fret over something I didn’t have control over.
Do Everything You Possibly Can: It works or not, I shouldn’t have the regret of not trying enough. I took everything on the chin.
You Get What You Need To Have: Sometimes you get not what you desire but what you need to have. The process is a big learning which shapes you into someone that you are meant to be, but don’t make an effort for it.
Life Can’t Pause: I didn’t carry on my life with a heavy heart. I learnt to let it go. Howsoever important it may be, if its not happening let it be. Life can’t pause for something to happen otherwise you make your life dull, and dissatisfying.
It Is Not A Race: I had everything else when could want ranging from name, fame and all the trappings of materialistic success. Life isn’t about ticking off the boxes. Don’t feel like left around while others are marching ahead. Your time comes.
Patience Always Pays: Being patient is a service to yourself. Feeling impatient will suck out your peace of mind and happiness as your mind will be irritated by not receiving the gratification you want.
I realised I grew into the person I am today, learning a lot through my pain. My pain got me out of my comfort zone. It made me resilient and capable of facing anything that life throws up.
Most people don’t realise pain and suffering is inseparable part of being human. There is no escape. Then does it not make better sense, to see your pain as a learning and humbling experience?
Each and every individual who has risen to great heights or achieved something big has risen through pain and suffering. Enduring that pain could be akin to walking on fire.
In the ancient hindu tradition, fire is considered most purifying. It is like getting pure, strong and ready for the success that waits for you at the other end.
Embrace pain for it offers a chance to be something better and bigger. On the other hand, non- acceptance of pain serves no purpose, it leads to more suffering.
There Is A Difference Between Pain And Suffering
Pain is part and parcel of our lives. We suffer more when we deny, complain and curse for our pain. We reduce our suffering when we embrace pain as a learning experience.
This can change the deck in one’s favour. It reduces the negativity in life and gives the realisation that pain is not permanent. Nothing is permanent.
Despite pain, we are always blessed with the power of choice. Opting to choose your reaction to what’s undesirable makes all the difference. If we choose to blame ourselves, others and fate for the pain, we are magnifying our suffering. Our reactions and responses sets the tone for our future.
So to wrap up embracing pain opens the gateway to a greater and better life. Growth springs from what’s uncomfortable. Pain offers the opportunity of growth. It may not make sense in the middle of experiencing pain, but it does make sense when you look back and smile at your past. Every experience is meant to shape you into who are meant to be.